Comments on: Staying Awake in Seattle, Day 18: Into every life, a little rain must fall

By: the communicatrix

the communicatrix — Fri, 17 Oct 2008 03:11:46 +0000

Joyce - Heeeey…are you accusing me of marking my territory!?

Jeanne - Not you, and not lame. I need to figure out what keeps the blog from updating comments right away. There’s a lot of ganky code under the hood. And we will meet up eventually. Just not this trip, alas…

Jen - Yes, Pema is most eloquent on the topic. Thank you for the reminder, and for the kind words.

By: Staying Away in Seattle, Day 20: Home, sick

Staying Away in Seattle, Day 20: Home, sick — Fri, 17 Oct 2008 03:05:58 +0000

[...] time, the pull to go home-home felt stronger than the desire to stay here. I don’t doubt that The BF having to cancel his plans to fly up, hang out, and drive back has something to do with it. We’ve been apart for a month today, and that’s too long [...]

By: Jen

Jen — Thu, 16 Oct 2008 04:47:33 +0000

Ah, the great evil of expectations… I just found your blog via Gretchen Rubin’s Happiness Project interview (you were just too charming not to visit) and I find you lamenting one of my most-battled phantasms - the expectation…

Pema Chodron has some BEAUTIFUL writing on the topic, that I talk about here (http://insideouthappy.com/2008/09/25/what-if-your-happiness-does-not-depend-on-getting-what-you-want/).

May peace find you tonight.
Jen

By: Jeanne

Jeanne — Thu, 16 Oct 2008 01:26:45 +0000

Let’s see. I just left an incredibly lame post that I think the Universe deleted to save me from embarrassment.

The jist of the post is that I am so bummed that I haven’t caught up with your blog until now! Because I live in Seattle and you are in Seattle and I would love to meet you. I will even introduce you to my chickens if you want to meet them (weird, but some people really want to see them).

I realize this all sounds super-lame. Forgive that. Just know that I am a big fan.

By: Jeanne

Jeanne — Thu, 16 Oct 2008 01:13:49 +0000

OMFG! I have been away from your blog for too long! You are in my city and I didn’t know?? Waa. I would love to meet you and treat you to coffee or tea or wine or cocktails. Seriously! I love your blog and would love to get together. (is that too weird? I’m just a fan who can’t contain herself).

By: joyce lukaczer

joyce lukaczer — Thu, 16 Oct 2008 00:56:21 +0000

… as-is-its-nature, the crap does cometh :)

it appears, you are, as ever, hydro-marking at the point [tee-hee]

thanks be extended

By: the communicatrix

the communicatrix — Wed, 15 Oct 2008 16:18:10 +0000

You know, I dimly remember being taken through the steps. Must have sunk in on some level way, way back, b/c you’re right, I actually did go through the steps and they actually did work.

For me, the trick is always reminding myself to take control of the process, i.e. to consciously feel the anger instead of being ruled by it like a three-year-old.

And god bless that acting training. It’s almost impossible *not* to know where that crap came from.

Thanks, Jean.

By: Jean Gogolin

Jean Gogolin — Wed, 15 Oct 2008 13:52:04 +0000

A shrink taught me a 4-step way to handle anger that works for me:

1) feel the anger; you’re entitled to it
2) figure out why it’s so strong - does it remind you of some earlier event?
3) stay with it for a while
4) Then do something to displace it, like yoga or a walk. I don’t think throwing things counts here, but whatever.

Sounds like you followed the formula.