Are you related to Rufus/Martha/Louden?

Nope. Dad changed the family name.

I'm freaking out about WordPress/blogging/ETC. Are there any reference materials you can recommend?

Yes and no. The media landscape shifts so fast, it's hard to recommend stuff unless you're spending all your time vetting the sources. Google is your friend here: "WordPress" + "beginning" or "getting started." You get the idea. (Or if you don't, ask your kid.)

I'm coming to LA! Can We meet for coffee/drinks/lunch and talk about life/marketing/our intestines?

Probably not. I've met so many awesome people this way that it kills me to say "no," but it started killing me and my health and my work to say "yes" so I had to severely curtail this sort of stuff.

Will you friend me on Facebook?

Most likely. I've made amazing friends through Facebook: People whom I've visited in 3-D. People who have put me up at their houses. I am loathe to cut off that channel.

However, more and more, I find people who see "friendship" as their chance to market to me. (Sad-faced emoji.) These are not people I'm interested in being friends with on Facebook—or anywhere, really. If we're going to be friends on FB, let's be friends. Let's post funny, interesting, useful stuff for each other to read. Have conversations.

Now that we're friends, will you "like" my FB page? It is for something superfantasticallyAWESOME!

I'm sure it is, but no.

But I need you to "like" my page or I'll be fired!

There's no other way to put this: if that's true, you have the wrong job.

Can I buy an ad on your site?


Will you trade links with me?


Well, then, will you link to this awesome thing my client/my daughter/I wrote?

Probably not, but if you write a nice note, I am more likely to check it out. No promises.

Do you accept guest posts?


How about if I email you about it anyway?

Definitely not then. (Seriously, please don't. And definitely don't send a passive-aggressive follow-up note when I don't reply to your first email.)

May I use your poem/post/article on my own blog/site/newsletter?

By all means, if it's a personal-only (i.e., not personal-as-your-brand) blog/site/newsletter! I release all of my work under a license that permits re-use based on the following conditions:

  1. You attribute it to me, Colleen Wainwright
  2. You do not use it to make money in any way, shape or form*
  3. Whether you remix, alter, or just straight-up use this content, you release it under the same license.

*If you have ANY question about what "making money" means, please ask me BEFORE using. It will save a lot of heartache on the other end. A link back to this site,, is nice, too. Be nice!

Basically, I want whatever is helpful to people to reach as many of them as possible. But I do like seeing my name in print (plus it, along with a link, helps those who need it to find more helpful stuff), and really, I give so much away for free that it REALLY chaps my hide when I see people doing gross, funky stuff with my stuff to make a quick buck. (Be nice!)

If you do not know how to make a hyperlink, this explains how to do it in HTML (code) and this explains how to do it in WordPress (it's very similar in other blogging platforms).

Updated 11/27/16