
We share the same initials.
We share the same nose
 and bad vision
 and bandy legs
 and double-jointed thumb
 and inexplicable love
 of Judge Judy
We even share the same
 48-hour
 birthday window
 which for years
 was a source
 of tele-hilarity
"Happy birthday!" he'd say
 beating me to it
 by 24 hours
 every time
We shared the planet
 for 42 years
 after which
 he took off without me
(We share the same disease, too, you see,
 only he got his first)
When he left
 things were hard
 for a long time
A long, long time
For the usual reasons
 mostly
 but also because
 while he always worked hard
 he did not
 as it turns out
 work clean
But three years
 is a long time
A long, long time
And I have done my work
 and I have made my peace
 and now I get
 that sometimes the best gift
 you can give yourself
 is to forgive
 someone else
So as I turn 45
 I have two things
 to say:
I am Tony Wainwright's daughter
 and "Happy Birthday"
First...
xxx
 c
Photo: Me & Tony, circa 1968. Me & Ann, last year.